Adapt, Adjust, Accept!

Well, life sure has a way of throwing challenges my way (and I’m sure yours too) when I least expect it! Recently it’s been about the 3 words in my title.

When something that I need to deal with comes forth from my subconscious mind I am a firm believer (through personal experience and education) that it has come forth because my subconscious has decided it is safe for me to do so. An important side point – your subconscious is the protective part of your mind. That is one of its main jobs. It won’t allow you to know or remember stuff on the conscious level unless it feels it is safe for you to do so. That is a simplified explanation but enough for the topic of this blog.

Knowing though that my subconscious mind has determined that I am now ready and able to safely deal with an issue, does not make it any easier to work through. Especially for someone like me that has difficulty with feeling a lack of control and thus also have a difficulty with adapting, adjusting and accepting to what comes forth in life or from my subconscious.

Part of my process for doing this work includes looking up the actual definitions of words. I know the definitions of the above words (and many other words that have come up as part of my personal growth work), but for some reason looking them up and reading those definitions seems to give me a visual and concrete place to start with doing the work.

I don’t do this with every word that comes up around change, but I do, do it frequently. After a week now of some heavy emotion going on, I realized that I haven’t yet looked up those 3 words. I have processed a lot and moved into doing what those words mean around this latest work but I think, for me, I do need to look them up now.

I also tend to focus on the part of the definition that I know pertains to the work I am doing (I trust my instinct, my gut here). I also find that it is often the synonyms that help me the most.

So, to start:

a·dapt
əˈdapt/Submit
verb

become adjusted to new conditions.
synonyms: adjust to, acclimatize oneself to, acclimate to, accommodate oneself to, attune to, conform to, habituate oneself to, become habituated to, get used to, orient oneself in, reconcile oneself to, come to terms with, get one’s bearings in, find one’s feet in, acculturate to, assimilate to, blend in to, fit in to

*several of those synonyms strike a cord with me, and I will use them to do this work. Notice that adjust is one of the synonyms for adapt.

ad·just
əˈjəst/Submit
verb

alter (or move [something]) slightly in order to achieve the desired fit, appearance, or result.
synonyms: modify, alter, regulate, tune, fine-tune, calibrate, balance; adapt, arrange, rearrange, change, rejig, rework, revamp, remodel, reshape, convert, tailor, improve, enhance, customize; repair, fix, correct, rectify, overhaul, put right; tweak.

*quite similar to adapt but enough differences to give me more information (notice that adapt is one of the synonyms for adjust). I’m a woman who is all for more information!

ac·cept
əkˈsept/
verb
2.
believe or come to recognize (an opinion, explanation, etc.) as valid or correct.
synonyms: believe, regard as true, give credence to, credit, trust; swallow, recognized, acknowledged, established, traditional, orthodox, sanctioned; usual, customary, habitual, common, current, normal, general, prevailing, accustomed, familiar, wonted, popular, well established, expected, routine, standard, stock

*again quite a few of these synonyms resonate with me. Also of note for me is the use of the word valid in the bolded text. For me valid doesn’t mean that you agree with something only that you can see/accept the validity of it.

My point with this blog is to a) help myself with where I at in some personal work. b) show my readers some of that real me so you know you are not alone if you are struggling with something, and c) to hopefully help someone in whatever way is right for them to receive help right now.

Being able to adapt, adjust and accept changes in life is something we all have to do. Doing so with grace and ease is my goal. Certainly not without feeling, or effort, but with grace as well. I’ve come a long way towards that and I have to make sure to recognize and give myself credit for that growth while continuing to grow. Please make sure that you do the same with/for yourself when you take steps, however small, towards personal growth. It’s not easy, but then as cliche as it sounds, nothing worth having ever is. 🙂

I also have become more aware at a faster speed each time people or situations trigger me into that hackles raised reaction. Sometimes that works better than others, but each time I do recognize it that increases my ability to adapt, adjust and accept the next similar situation that arises even quicker and with more grace and ease.

Being able to adapt, adjust and accept has another unexpected affect of enabling me to better speak up for myself and express my feelings or opinions in more productive and constructive ways.

Growth – so challenging, so worth it.

Have a great day!

 

 

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Spirituality, Journeys, Purposes and Visions

Hello all my lovely blog readers, once again I apologize for being so long between blog postings. As I mentioned in a previous blog I’ve been undergoing a lot of personal growth and change on many levels. I think I also mentioned that this work can become all encompassing for me when it’s happening.

I did a lot of work in this similar way last year at this time and it took up a good (and I mean good in all ways here) 4-6 months of my life. I gave myself- my mind, body and spirit- the time to adjust and incorporate all of that before being ready for more work this Feb. Now I’ve been having a spiritual journey that has been creating big changes deep inside me on the subconscious level. I’ve been working with my Hypnotherapist, my Naturopath and taking some courses with a Teacher/Mentor of mine.

The work is mentally and emotionally hard, which of course affects my body. They are all connected. My stress levels (cortisol and adrenalin) are higher. Sleep, diet and exercise habits have also been impacted. Add in “normal” life, having braces put on my teeth in mid March, and the exciting planning of a trip to Scotland with my bestie- we’re going in October, oh and I can’t forget hormones! I am 50 after all; so you can imagine how it’s been!

Let’s see if I can summarize and share some of what I’ve been doing. Working with my Hypnotherapist, we’ve been working on connecting with my inner selves at the various ages and stages of my life that they represent. Bringing them all together for the greater good. So I can move forward in my growth and be who I am. Also on connecting with my soul and what represents my soul. There’s more at work here, that I’ve been doing here, but it seems to be the hardest to articulate.

Working with my Teacher/Mentor, we’ve been discovering what my purpose is in being here and what my vision is for me and the world. It’s been a totally amazing discovery. Surprising and yet not as it has tied in with the work I’m doing with my Hypnotherapist. There has been a lot of emotion brought forth from all of it. Overwhelming at times, powerful  and empowering! I’ve started the second level of my Teacher/Mentor’s Vision courses last week, and in this level we’re working on developing our mission statements. So simple sounding but so profound in the impact it has on a personal level. It’s awesome that all but one of us from the first level class have returned for the second level. It’s nice to have that connection as we’ve each gone through and continue with our personal journeys.

My Naturopath is awesome! He helps look after ALL of me- the physical, emotional/mental and spiritual. He is supportive in his suggestions, his use of/recommendations for supplements and tinctures. He uses acupuncture to help support my body and mind through all of it. My body and mind respond very well to acupuncture. When he uses the needles on those spots for stress, I am so relaxed and mellow afterwards- all spacey and you’d think I was high ;). We are working with my Hypnotherapist to make the effects last longer as I can’t always see my Naturopath as often as I’d like to. He also reminds me to be gentle with myself and to “Trust that you are on the right path! Try not to focus on the “what’s next” now that you have discovered your vision/purpose. Instead focus on staying connected and in tune with that purpose, and I think you’ll find that the “what’s next” will happen organically.”  A wise man, yes? 🙂

All of the above work has also resulted in working on some other specific things like managing expectations, ‘what are expectations?’, managing the feelings around wants and hopes, changing how I react to situations, knowing on a deeper level that that is the only thing I truly have any control over, and more.

I’ve even experienced a panic attack and a huge epiphany within a week of each other with all this work! *Whew*, it’s scary and difficult and amazing and worth it and wow…

Don’t ever think that change and growth are not worth it. Don’t ever let the fear stop you. A quote from my Naturopath that resonates with me as I’m doing all of this work:

“Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” ~Jack Canfield~